Thursday, June 14, 2012
First, let me establish why I think underage drinking is risky. Most humans under age 24 do not yet have adult brains. The pre-frontal cortex undergoes growth up until this time (and even later in some). Young people between puberty and about age 24 have a higher risk tolerance if there is a possibility of reward (especially for SOCIAL rewards). In other words, they will do stupid stuff if they think success will get them attention, sex, or other rewards. When you introduce alcohol into an already risk tolerant individual, you can get some really scary stunts. (See our November 2011 post.) Some of these lead to injuries, some to risky sexual behavior and long term social and emotional consequences. The other factor here is that there is evidence that when these developing brains are repeatedly exposed to alcohol or other mind altering drugs, the brains actually develop additional chemoreceptors for alcohol or nicotine or cannabinoids. This leads to a high risk for dependency as an adult. Their young livers also process alcohol and other compounds less efficiently than do fully adult bodies. Bottom line, if you want to reduce the risk of short-term and long-term injury to your children, don't endorse their use of alcohol while they are young.
Most underage drinkers imbibe in groups. According to our local law enforcement officials we have made great strides in recent years in reducing the number of big parties (those with more than 100 kids at them). This is great, but we still have a long way to go to get the number of youth under 21 who are drinking (and drinking heavily) down. One way to address this is to discourage even the smaller parties from happening.
The best way to discourage underage drinking is through thoughtful and engaged dialogue between parents and teens. This includes expressing a sincere desire that your kids not drink at all while they are underage. (Simply forbidding any behavior without dialogue isn't effective. Our children need to understand that we care about them and think that underage drinking, not just drinking and driving, is not safe.)
When this method doesn't work, or when we get wind of a planned gathering at another family's property, you can call them and tell them what you heard. If you find that this would be very awkward for you to do, perhaps a discussion with the parents of your children's close friends when you don't have bad news to break might be in order. Before it ever becomes an issue, try asking them what they would like you to do if you were to hear about a party at their house or at their camp, and share what you would like them to do if the same were to be true for a party at your property.
If you don't know the other parents, or can't get in touch with them, please consider calling the regional emergency dispatch centers and reporting the potential party. The earlier you can report it, the more likely that law enforcement can break it up without having to summons anyone. Ideally, the officers can simply have a conversation BEFORE the party starts, so that it can be avoided all together. Also, reports to the Knox or Waldo County dispatch centers can be anonymous. The dispatcher may ask you for your name automatically, but you can leave a report without leaving your name. (Just state that you would not like to give your name.) No one—especially local law enforcement—wants to have to make a call about an accident or a bust at a party to parents. They would much rather get word early and be able to keep things from escalating to the point of having to write summons or even worse deal with an accident.
We as community members need to get more involved to prevent young people from habitually using alcohol. Taking the step of talking to your children, talking to their friends' parents, and reporting parties you get wind of are some of the ways you can help.
Thursday, June 7, 2012
There’s a lot of anger out there and much vitriol directed at the “stupidity” of people. We see it in partisan politics, internet trolldom, school bullying… At home, we might experience it in sibling rivalries.
“How dumb can you get?” “You’re so stupid!” “What an idiot!”
Don’t agree with someone’s opinion? He/she’s a bonehead. Somebody is slow to cede the passing lane on the highway? Duh! A student needs some extra help in math? Moron!
It seems people are all too eager to point out what and who’s dumb.
Dumb blond jokes. “Fail” videos. The Darwin Awards (saluting “the improvement of the human genome by honoring those who accidentally remove themselves from it”… by doing something fatally “stupid.”). The entertainment value of stupidity is endless, right?
Now, some people deserve our anger: the criminally minded, for example. But stupid? This catchall term has gone too far. And if someone truly does possess a lower-than-average IQ, do we really need to judge him/her?
To those readers who might be asking themselves what all this has to do with prevention, I’ll point to the eroding effect being called stupid has on a child’s sense of self worth. It’s a term that tends to get stuck in the craw. Too often, kids take it to heart, come to believe it—and act in ways to counteract the pain or stigma: alcohol, drugs, delinquency, dropping out of school.
Do you know a child who has been told that he or she is stupid? Can’t do math? Has a hard time with directions? Difficulty reading? Share with them the following on multiple intelligences (and remind them that sticks and stones may break their bones, but names can never harm them!).
There are many ways to be smart!
Howard Gardner’s nine multiple intelligences (as described by PBS.org):
- Linguistic Intelligence: the capacity to use language to express what's on your mind and to understand other people.
- Logical/Mathematical Intelligence: the capacity to understand the underlying principles of some kind of causal system, the way a scientist or a logician does; or to manipulate numbers, quantities, and operations, the way a mathematician does.
- Musical Rhythmic Intelligence: the capacity to think in music; to be able to hear patterns, recognize them, and perhaps manipulate them.
- Bodily/Kinesthetic Intelligence: the capacity to use your whole body or parts of your body (your hands, your fingers, your arms) to solve a problem, make something, or put on some kind of production. Think athletes, dancers, actors.
- Spatial Intelligence: the ability to represent the spatial world internally in your mind -- the way a sailor or airplane pilot navigates the large spatial world, or the way a chess player or sculptor represents a more circumscribed spatial world.
- Naturalist Intelligence: the ability to discriminate among living things (plants, animals) and sensitivity to other features of the natural world (clouds, rock configurations).
- Intrapersonal Intelligence: having an understanding of yourself; knowing who you are, what you can do, what you want to do, how you react to things, which things to avoid, and which things to gravitate toward.
- Interpersonal Intelligence: the ability to understand other people. It's an ability we all need, but is especially important for teachers, clinicians, salespersons, or politicians -- anybody who deals with other people.
- Existential Intelligence: the ability and proclivity to pose (and ponder) questions about life, death, and ultimate realities.